What is a High Conflict Divorce Coach?
Do You Need One?
My role as a high conflict divorce coach,
means I can work with you in the
following capacities, to save you finite
time, mental and emotional energy, and
• I help you plan your exit strategy which
varies from situation to situation. I help
you gather the proper documents and
ensure you leave as safely as possible.
•I help you create and practice "The Talk"
to avoid as much conflict as possible during this difficult tradition. This talk is tailored to your specific situation, relationship and interpersonal dynamics.
•| help you create your divorce team from
the best lawyers through to CFAs,
therapist, realtors, forensic accountants,
mortgage brokers. The professionals you hire can make or break your divorce, can expedite it or stall it, can cost you more time or money, or save you time and money.
•| teach you to communicate effectively
without emotion so that you show up in
all professional meetings as clear,
articulate and focused on the business of
divorce. This not only increases your
relatability, but also saves you so much
time, which when dealing with divorce,
•Your lawyer is one of your most
important assets in divorce but many do
not understand the nuances and
complexities of abusers, victims and how
to strategize with this personality type.
This will cost you so much time and
money. This is why I have a list of vetted attorneys and questions to ask them when you constult with them.
•I work with you to lock down your
parenting plan, which needs to be devoid
of all ambiguity, this again, will save you
so much time and money down the road.
Ambiguity is a narcissist's best friend and your worst enemy for future peace and sanity.
•| help you create your non-negotiable
boundaries and work with you so that you're
able to enforce and maintain them. This is
the foundational piece from which
everything else grows out of. Boundaries
safeguard your peace and happiness.
•I teach you how to communicate effectively
so that you: avoid engaging when not
necessary; circular conversations which are
the hallmark of all narcissists; respond and
don't react. You will be forced to
communicate with your ex until your
children are 18, so this is a key skill to learn early on. Aren't you exhausted and triggered and anxious when it comes time to communicate with them? Don't you want to not experience any of the anxiety and stress and confusion when having to communicate with them?
•I teach you how, and what, and when to
document which is an essential skill with a
narcissist. You'll need this during your
divorce, as well as after to show patterns of behaviour.
•I teach you how to parallel parent. You
cannot coparent with a narcissist, so you'll
need to learn the ins and outs of parallel
parenting and how to implement it to
safeguard your home, your children, and
•| help you anticipate and mitigate the
plethora of abusive tactics your narcissistic
ex will try to employ from the moment you
separate until your children are 18.
•What you don't know can have
severe consequences for you and your
children. This is why knowledge is power.
If you can anticipate it, then you can
mitigate it. And if you can't mitigate it,
then you will need to litigate it.
•| help you minimize your overwhelm,
uncertainty and stress by helping you get
organized, create manageable to do lists,
explain all your options to you, working
within your divorce budget.
•I explain your various divorcing options and will coach you through to them, so that you are educated, confident and clear.
•The work we do together, helps you become crystal clear as to what you want, and how you'll go about getting there.
•This is a skill that will transfer to every facet of your divorce and life beyond divorce.
•You'll start responding and not reacting and this will help you control far more of every part of your divorce and life.
What is your time and financial investment?
•On average, clients require 6 sessions. Some less and some more.
•I offer 1:1 sessions, packages, and payment plans.
•I offer complimentary check-ins between sessions to support you during your process and learning.
•I work with clients GLOBALLY.
•My rates are between 160$-170$ Canadian.
A high conflict divorce coach should be your first stop before you hire a lawyer or any other divorce professional.
If you want expert guidance, support, tools, and clarity, and the ability to save yourself time, emotional and mental stress and
money, the question is then: